Rules, laws, and protocols

From an early age, we learn to follow rules. We don’t want to irritate or embarrass our parents or caregivers, so we do as we are told. After all, we depend on them, and punishment is effective. Once we start school, we mainly do what the teacher says. Soon, we also follow “what the doctor says,” “what the government says,” “what science says,” and “what the experts say.” What we fail to see is that they, too, are trapped in a rigid system of rules and protocols.

Without asking too many questions, we comply with what is imposed on us and learn to be obedient. We want to be good people and become accustomed to living according to the standards of our surroundings. What we often don’t realize is that this blind trust in externally dominated, yang-driven authorities sidelines our own common sense and intuition. That rules, laws, and protocols are not always humane is something we either cannot or do not want to see:

– Elderly care that separates lifelong partners in the name of budget cuts.

– Children in foster care who need warmth and love but receive inhumane treatment under the guise of protocols.

– Various industries that are subject to supervisory organizations, but whose regulations contradict each other, leaving businesses to suffer and true oversight questionable.

– An education system that makes intuitive and sensitive children—or those with different learning styles or intelligences—feel they are not smart, fast, or good enough.

– A healthcare system that often prioritizes customer retention over true healing.

– A financial system that disguises mass theft as “inflation.”

– The disappearance of children being labeled as “the childcare allowance scandal.

We are all so stuck in survival mode that we wear blinders. The inhumane is accepted with shocking ease. “Rules are rules,” right? We have handed over everything to external authorities, including our conscience and responsibility.

The moral compass we were born with is drowned out by laws and protocols that are heartless. Maybe it’s time to recognize that these external authorities do not always have our best interests at heart but primarily function as business models. The same goes for disease and war. Is our current system truly functional? Why are more and more people experiencing burnout, depression, or even committing suicide? Why are chronic illnesses and the use of antidepressants increasing? Why is loneliness on the rise?

We have traded self-actualization for self-enrichment, leaving us empty and unfulfilled. When we are stuck in survival mode, we lack clarity, we keep pushing forward, and we become inhumane and self-centered. The reptilian brain takes over. Our own survival becomes the priority, and we forget that we are part of a greater whole. Our nervous system becomes overstimulated, with all the consequences that follow.

We have lost our way—our thinking is overqualified, and fear rules. We often don’t even realize that our thinking has been programmed by external authorities. We become increasingly disconnected from our blueprint and our conscience. This literally makes us sick. Slowing down is essential for our well-being and awareness.

Healing (including trauma healing) is not optional—it is a necessity. Without it, we remain easily controlled and trapped in the age-old “sow fear, divide, and conquer” tactic, because it hooks into our traumas. These traumas cloud our perception and make us easy to polarize. I don’t believe in fighting the system. I think it’s far more effective to take back responsibility for ourselves and our health. To bring the yin and yang forces back into balance. Yang without yin is harsh and unfeeling. Through inner work, shadow work, and self-reflection, we reconnect with ourselves.

Then, we listen to our inner voice again and allow our feelings to speak. We realign with the wisdom of the heart—where there is no hatred, only love. Love is far more powerful than we often realize. Maybe there isn’t so much wrong with us or humanity as a whole, but rather with the systems that suppress our true nature and blueprint. Maybe the problem doesn’t lie with those who create inhumane rules but with those who blindly follow them and hide behind them.

When we live according to the laws of nature, life works for us instead of against us. I hope we find the courage to follow our hearts and listen to our feelings again. So that we do not allow ourselves to be led into heartless actions. Hatred will then make way for understanding. We will begin to support each other instead of opposing one another. The solution is not outside of ourselves!

What would happen in a society with inhumane and unnatural rules, protocols, and laws—but no one follows them?

Long live humanity!

Book Recommendations:

The Chalice and the Blade – Riane Eisler

And the Man Shall Rule – Jacob Slavenburg

The Heroine’s Journey – Maureen Murdock

The Masculine in Man and the Feminine in Woman – Karen Hamaker-Zondag

Projection Mechanisms in Practice – Karen Hamaker-Zondag

Addicted to Perfection – Marion Woodman

The Dance of Anger – Harriet G. Lerner

Seeing the Forest for the Trees – Jan de Bomerez